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Know Claim Own Live

Your FULL Story

Speaking, therapy, Writing, & Education

Licensed Psychotherapist & Eating Disorders Specialist
Psychology Today Columnist | Lead Author, My Child Has an Eating Disorder (Bloomsbury Academic)

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If you’re here, something may feel confusing or overwhelming.

Eating, body image, and self-worth issues have a way of narrowing what gets seen and what gets shared.

At the heart of all my work—therapy, writing, speaking, and education—is this:

Your FULL story matters.

(Even the painful parts—and the ones you learned to hide.)

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Hi, I’m Alli Spotts-De Lazzer,

LMFT, LPCC, CEDS-C, IEDS.

I work with

Individuals

Parents & Families

Organizations

Media

For around 20 years now, I’ve specialize in helping individuals develop a more self-assured relationship with themselves and their lives, and helping parents more confidently support their children (adolescents and adults) in eating disorder recovery. My approach centers on self-acceptance—not as resignation, but as a foundation for meaningful change—across therapy, education, writing, advocacy, and speaking.

It can be difficult to find meaning in struggles or long-standing patterns we don’t like about ourselves. With the right guidance, those experiences can be understood—not erased—and can become a doorway to greater steadiness, self-appreciation, and inner peace.

Each role I hold is distinct and intentional. Learn more about my background and expertise below (and for more detail, click the About tab), or explore therapy, parent eating disorder support, confidence coaching, speaking, or books below.

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Professional Bio

Alli Spotts-De Lazzer is a licensed therapist, eating disorders expert, educator, speaker, and author with nearly two decades of clinical experience. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC), Certified Eating Disorders Specialist and Approved Consultant (CEDS-C), and Inclusive Eating Disorders Specialist (IEDS). She has taught in Antioch University's Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology program.

She is the lead author of My Child Has an Eating Disorder: An Essential Guide for Parents of Kids, Teens, and Adults (Bloomsbury Academic), which she conceived from her years of work with caregivers. She is also the author of MeaningFULL: 23 Life-Changing Stories of Conquering Dieting, Weight, and Body Image Issues (Unsolicited Press), and a contributing author to Body Image and Self-Esteem (Independence Educational Publishers). Through her Psychology Today column, academic journals, and publications such as Medscape and Verywell Mind, she has published more than 100 articles.

A frequent speaker, Alli presents at conferences, universities, training programs, and community events. Her expertise has been featured in outlets including The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, TIME, Newsweek, and national television news programs.

Committed to public-facing education, Alli created and directed #ShakeIt for Self-Acceptance!, a national mental health initiative recognized across the country—from Capitol Hill to the former Staples Center. She has also facilitated a no-cost support and education group for family and other supporters of individuals with eating disorders since 2011.

Alli has held leadership roles with the Academy for Eating Disorders (AED) and the International Association of Eating Disorders Professionals (iaedp™). She contributed to iaedp’s development of the national CEDS curriculum and has served as CEDS teaching faculty. She currently chairs the CEDS Curriculum Committee. Additionally, Alli is a cofounder and the host of MeaningFULL Conversations, a monthly multidisciplinary eating-disorders discussion and consultation series established in 2023.

Her honors and professional distinctions include the International Association of Eating Disorders Professionals’ Member of the Year Award; an invitation to serve as an expert reviewer for the 2022 draft of the American Psychiatric Association Practice Guideline for the Treatment of Patients With Eating Disorders; service as an expert panelist for Harvard Alumni for Mental Health; and recognition of her work’s community impact by the Los Angeles and Santa Monica city councils.

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A Broader Perspective

Check out this free 2-minute video where I walk you through one way you can start claiming Your FULL Story now (FYI, by clicking, you’ll be added to my mailing list).

This resource is educational and not a substitute for psychotherapy.

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Coaching and therapy are distinct. The rights of a coaching client are different than the rights held by a therapy client.

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